And the number ten reason why I'm happy I'm single:
10. Shaving
I don't have to shave nearly as often as I would if I had a boyfriend, especially in the winter when no one sees my legs anyway. It saves me much time and hassle (and shaving cream)!
Of course winter is marching to a close and summer will bring back skirts and capris and the end of my reprieve, but for now I'm enjoying my longer stretches of time off.
Tuesday, February 28, 2012
Sunday, February 26, 2012
Breaking Up is Hard to Do
Another great advantage to being single:
9. No chance of divorce
Even with the best of outcomes I imagine that shared custody of a child or children would be hard. Birthdays and holidays have to be split. Either with a morning/evening split or a "you get the kids this Christmas, I get them next Christmas" kind of thing. And it seems like some parents try to one-up the other parent in the gift-giving department - almost like a competition to see who can spoil the kids more.
Also, what if your ex decides to get married again and you don't like their new spouse? What if you don't want that person around your children?
And if the divorce isn't amicable then the children are the ones who suffer the most, constantly having their loyalties torn between two people. Hearing one parent bash the other and vice versa. Such a sad situation for all involved.
9. No chance of divorce
Even with the best of outcomes I imagine that shared custody of a child or children would be hard. Birthdays and holidays have to be split. Either with a morning/evening split or a "you get the kids this Christmas, I get them next Christmas" kind of thing. And it seems like some parents try to one-up the other parent in the gift-giving department - almost like a competition to see who can spoil the kids more.
Also, what if your ex decides to get married again and you don't like their new spouse? What if you don't want that person around your children?
And if the divorce isn't amicable then the children are the ones who suffer the most, constantly having their loyalties torn between two people. Hearing one parent bash the other and vice versa. Such a sad situation for all involved.
Friday, February 24, 2012
Crime & Punishment & More
The next reason I'm happy to be single is actually a combination of two reasons that share the same general topic:
8. Fighting
The two parts of this one are arguing over the discipline of a child and actually fighting in front of the children.
Do you prefer time-out? What if he prefers a more extreme punishment like spanking? What if you agree on a punishment only to have him relent before the agreed punishment is over? Maybe you're the one who wants to relent. And while you're too busy arguing over what kind of punishment is best, and how to mete it out, your child is getting mixed messages and/or getting into more trouble.
You know that uncomfortable feeling you get when two people are arguing and you're nearby? Sometimes I've had that same uncomfortable feeling watching couples argue on FB. I don't like to argue or fight and I don't like to be around other people doing it. And I know kids are affected by fighting, especially when it's between the two people they're most familiar with. And even if the fighting is just words and never escalates into yelling, slamming doors, breaking things, or abuse it is still uncomfortable and not something I want to put my kids through.
8. Fighting
The two parts of this one are arguing over the discipline of a child and actually fighting in front of the children.
Do you prefer time-out? What if he prefers a more extreme punishment like spanking? What if you agree on a punishment only to have him relent before the agreed punishment is over? Maybe you're the one who wants to relent. And while you're too busy arguing over what kind of punishment is best, and how to mete it out, your child is getting mixed messages and/or getting into more trouble.
You know that uncomfortable feeling you get when two people are arguing and you're nearby? Sometimes I've had that same uncomfortable feeling watching couples argue on FB. I don't like to argue or fight and I don't like to be around other people doing it. And I know kids are affected by fighting, especially when it's between the two people they're most familiar with. And even if the fighting is just words and never escalates into yelling, slamming doors, breaking things, or abuse it is still uncomfortable and not something I want to put my kids through.
Saturday, February 18, 2012
To Grandmother's House We Go
I have observed the following happen to my married friends and family and I don't envy them fot it:
7. The Holidays
Your grandparents want you to come for Thanksgiving, your in-laws want you to come for Christmas, but wait - your side of the family will all be at your parents' house this year, including your favorite aunt you hardly ever see. Did Uncle Bob forget to mention he'd really like to see you and meet the baby on New Years?? During Christmas the in-laws invited you to come again at Easter but your parents are upset, they didn't get to see you guys for the past two holidays, but your husband's parents live 2,000 miles away and they're upset because they feel like they never get to see you, or their son, or the baby. The holidays, a time of family togetherness, are turning into one gigantic family feud and now all you want to do is stay home...
If I become a SMC then I will have exactly two options for holidays - go to the one person/family that is hosting or stay home. Things are much less chaotic that way.
7. The Holidays
Your grandparents want you to come for Thanksgiving, your in-laws want you to come for Christmas, but wait - your side of the family will all be at your parents' house this year, including your favorite aunt you hardly ever see. Did Uncle Bob forget to mention he'd really like to see you and meet the baby on New Years?? During Christmas the in-laws invited you to come again at Easter but your parents are upset, they didn't get to see you guys for the past two holidays, but your husband's parents live 2,000 miles away and they're upset because they feel like they never get to see you, or their son, or the baby. The holidays, a time of family togetherness, are turning into one gigantic family feud and now all you want to do is stay home...
If I become a SMC then I will have exactly two options for holidays - go to the one person/family that is hosting or stay home. Things are much less chaotic that way.
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
You Lost Our Life Savings Playing Poker?!?!
I worry about money - who doesn't?? Right now I'm on a monetary diet to help pay more on my student loan. I've had to budget and I've done well sticking to it. This brings me to reason number six why I'm happy I'm single:
6. Finances
Partners can be a boon to finances, but they can also be a detriment. I have a friend whose husband gambled away the savings account her parents had started for her. I'm so glad I don't have to worry about that. Neither do I have to argue about who pays the bills (I actually like being the one in charge of this). And I don't have to worry about keeping track of someone who is irresponsible with the money we are supposed to share.
And while baby-making might turn out to be expensive (not to mention the expenses of child-rearing) at least it is only my money on the line and I don't have the guilt of feeling like I'm spending too much of "our" money in the pursuit of one goal.
On a different note - Happy Valentine's Day!!
6. Finances
Partners can be a boon to finances, but they can also be a detriment. I have a friend whose husband gambled away the savings account her parents had started for her. I'm so glad I don't have to worry about that. Neither do I have to argue about who pays the bills (I actually like being the one in charge of this). And I don't have to worry about keeping track of someone who is irresponsible with the money we are supposed to share.
And while baby-making might turn out to be expensive (not to mention the expenses of child-rearing) at least it is only my money on the line and I don't have the guilt of feeling like I'm spending too much of "our" money in the pursuit of one goal.
On a different note - Happy Valentine's Day!!
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| The cookies I made for today, yum yum! |
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