Arrghh, He Left the Toilet Seat Up Again!!

I may not be sharing a bathroom now but that doesn't mean I haven't shared one with a guy (mostly my brother) so this brings me to reason number five why I'm happy I'm single:

5. I get the bathroom all to myself

Not sharing a bathroom is a glorious thing.....
The toilet seat is NEVER left up.
There is no beard hair coating the sink and no towels on the floor.
I don't have to wait while someone else uses the shower and no one is waiting for me to get out.
No one uses up all my soap or shampoo.
No one uses up all the toilet paper and then forgets to put on a new roll.
I have use of the entire countertop plus all the cupboards and drawers for my stuff (how did I get so many toiletries??).
Plus my bathroom decor and color scheme don't have to be manly at all. And I can make it my own little spa and no one will object.

This is why, when I finally get my own place, I would like two full baths so I can continue to have my own retreat and any guests and kids can have theirs.

His Mother Just Called - She Wants to Stay for a Month.....

Another great thing about being single:

4. No In-laws

Not as good a cook as his ex? Well-meaning but condescending advice? Surprise visits? House not pass the white glove test?

These are just a few of the small tiffs and outright battles that occur with a clash of the in-laws and single people like myself can breathe a collective sigh of relief because we don't have to deal with it.

Sure, I've heard good things about some in-laws, but I've heard plenty of bad too and right now it's enough just dealing with my own family, I'm glad I don't have to stress out about impressing somebody else's.

Number Three

Now for reason number three why I'm happy to be single:

3. Baby Names
My list of names has already been squeezed pretty thin. Actually, I've stopped making baby name lists and won't be looking through any baby name books until I have a wee one on the way because I don't want to fall in love with another name only to "lose" it.
Already two of my favorite boy names have been taken over by girls. One of my favorite girl names is way too similar to my niece's name. And if it is the name of someone I know, or have known, then it also goes off the list.
Some names get eliminated because friends and family have used the names for their kids. Not to mention if the name is too popular it also gets cut.
So, with all this already hindering me I can't imagine adding in someone else's preferences or prejudices.

Continuing the Celebration

Once when I was on Po.st S.ecret I saw a post from a man about getting a secret vasectomy right before he and his wife started trying for child number two. He explained they had no money for fertility tests and bragged that he was getting "it" a lot while never worrying about creating another kid. Meanwhile I'm sure his wife was getting frustrated and sad every month she couldn't get pregnant. This brings me to reason number two why I'm happy I'm single:

2. TTC
I choose when I want to start a family - I don't have to nag some poor guy until he gives in, likewise there's no one pushing me before I'm sure.
I can choose what method to use and if I want to try IUI five times before moving to IVF then it's nobody's money but my own. And if I decide I need to move to donor eggs, donor embryos, or adoption I can do so without a partner's objections.
I decide how many children I want (with the exception of multiples) and don't have to worry about a significant other wanting more or fewer. (See the above-mentioned jerk)
And I decide when I've had enough and feel I need to stop TTC without feeling as though I'm letting down my significant other if they want to give it another try.

Celebrating Singledom in the Month of Love

So it's February now and the stores are brimming with chocolates, stuffed animals, Valentine cards and enough pink and red to blind a person. And typical of nearly every year in my life I don't have a significant other for the 14th. But this year, rather than drown my sorrows in a pint of chocolate peanut butter ice cream, I'm going to celebrate all the things I like about being single. And I made a list of them. So, without further ado (but in no particular order) here is reason number one:

1. I get the bed all to myself.
I can spread out, lay whichever way I want, toss and turn and never once worry about being a space invader or waking someone else up.
All the pillows are mine and I can surround myself with as many as I need.
All the blankets are mine and you better believe I'll be piling on more if it's cold or pushing them off when it's hot.
I don't have someone else's cold feet poking me and I'm not annoying them with mine.
I can deck out my bed in purple flowery sheets and no one will protest.
When I go to bed late at night I'm not waking anyone up. And nobody wakes me with their before-the-sunrise schedule.
And best of all - I don't have to listen to anyone snoring!