In fact I'm still mulling over your comments and will probably post more on them in other posts, but for now I think I have come up with a plan. I want to feel truly ready for a baby, but I don't want to wait too long so I have come up with a tentative compromise on when to start.
First I am going to try my hardest to complete the goals I call the Big Three (more on them later). If those are completed by age 30 then I will sit back and assess my emotional readiness. If I feel ready I will go for it. If I don't then I will give myself the time I need to get ready - with the idea that I will start no later than age 33. It's sort of a floating plan I guess, and it could easily change depending on a lot of things but I work best with a goal in mind.
So, the three goals I would like to accomplish by the time I turn 30:
- Pay off my student loan
- Get a different job or an extra job
- Get a place of my own - whether it be a house, condo, or apartment
It is very good to have goals- just don't get lost behind them. That was my experience. After my divorce, I had so many (very good and important) goals that kept jumping in front of my having a baby till I put it off to the last minute only to find out that my time to do it relatively easily had already passed.
ReplyDeleteSounds very prudent to me.
ReplyDeleteI think you have a solid plan---particularly about finances. When I found out I was pregnant with twins, I was so glad that I took a year to pay off my debt and to build some solid savings.
ReplyDeleteBut, as Nell wrote, don't get lost behind your goals and lose track of time.